A Tribute to Beach Gals... Part 6

In many of my posts, I have mentioned Bubbles. Now who is this Bubbles that you have all been hearing about? Today’s post will be dedicated to her, my dear friend Bubbles.

Bubbles is No8 in the 10 Sisters gang. I remember her short china doll hairstyle in Sec1, and her forever smiling with her eyes squinted face. She was one of the ‘loud’ and smart ones in the class. ‘Loud’ meaning I always hear giggling at the back of the class and it will definitely have had come from her or someone she is talking. Or whenever something ‘major’ happened, it will definitely involve her and the other ‘loud’ ones. She sat at the back of the classroom, whilst I, having not grown vertically since Pr6, sat in the front. All the fun and laughter came from the back; I can only listen and envy in front. Somehow I was surrounded by all the more serious and hardworking students.

Bubbles is a cheerful gal, whom to many people, has no worries. But to those that are close to her and know her well enough, we know that she just doesn’t bring her worries to those around her. She has her own fair share of hardships, heartaches and worries. Instead of crying over spilt milk, or waiting for a knight in shining armour to save her, she prefers to solve her own problems.

To be honest, I was not that close to her during school days. And frankly, I did not quite like her then. Maybe I thought she was too ‘loud’. Maybe I was jealous? Hahahaha. Yes that is the truth, I mean I did not quite like her then was true. Particularly in Sec 3 and 4. Maybe bcos she was hanging out with some gals whom I don’t really had a good impression of. But then bearing what Ms Travolta had said (Accepting a friends includes accepting her flaws etc), I still respected that that was her choice of social circle. Maybe it did her good, bcos then she got to experience many things that I myself had missed out as a teenager. I remember she pulled a stint as one of the ‘model’ in a national day song. Stand up for Singapore. Hahahaha. Yes I remember that well. She and the other gals were like swinging and dancing in the ‘MTV’. It looks just like what you would see in KTV, but not the original version, with the lead actor/actress walking or dancing in an open area. But, what the heck, it is all part of growing up isn’t it? ;p If I was the one offered the chance, would I not have grabbed it as well? Maybe hehehe..

I wouldn’t say Bubbles is beautiful. Of cos she is beautiful in her own way, but not those drop dead gorgeous kind, you know what I mean. She has a confident (at least that’s what I feel) outlook, tall enough (much taller than me anyway), super fair and smooth complexion, and please Bubbles, I repeat one more time: you are not fat. I am really envious and jealous of the fact that she does not need to do much to upkeep all that. She doesnt apply body moisturizer, doesnt put sunblock, drink coffee like water, doesnt buy a lot of skincare. She is just…. Born that way. Sometimes, she can just pass off as an artiste and no one will doubt her. But deep down, I feel that sometimes she is not so confident, just that she somehow manages to pull it off.

Bubbles has had a rather smooth sailing education and career. Always one of the top students, always one of the jude gals in school, yes she is right, everyone wants to be around her. Gosh, I sound so jealous! But well, I can never be her, cos that’s just the way things are. Anyway, back to Bubbles. After her graduation, she worked her way up pretty fast. And that was the time when we had the most fun. Partying, trying out new things, wakeboarding, blading etc etc. That was the time I started to know Bubbles better too. As we hung out more, I discovered the side of Bubbles that was never known to me before. She is a very caring person, not those superficially caring kind, really caring and concerned about the people around her. Even to the aunty that clears the bins at the end of the day, she never fails to acknowledge her presence. She may seem nonchalant, but she cares. She knows what she wants, and she works hard for it. Yes she is playful in a way, but when it is time to be serious, she settles herself down quite fast and concentrates on what needs to be done. These are the people who truly play hard and work just as hard.

Bubbles and I have worked together in the same company. Twice actually. I really appreciated her help bcos I admit that I am not very confident when it comes to interviews and stuff. Bubbles knows best cos she sat in when my current boss interviewed me! I was abit paiseh that she was there, but it went quite smoothly. Bubbles said I could have improved on my interview skills, but, how??? Teach me la! Hehehe. We had fun bitching together, complaining to each other about the people in the office. But have to take care not to be so close that people will gossip, about me or her abusing authority. Hey, she might have hardsell me, but I had to go through the interview with my bosses as well ok! She just made it erm… easier for me ;p. Thanks Bubbles!

Bubbles loves her family. Especially her mum. She will try her best to spend her weekends at home with her family, go for short trips with them, think of activities to do. To the extend that she will forgo an outing with us. She will go all out to help any of them if they need her, even if it meant her having to sacrifice her own time and money. They are a very close-knitted family. Any man dating her will have to gain approval from both her and her family before going any further. Love her, love her family, that’s Bubbles’ motto when looking for a partner. I am happy for her that her hubby is able to do that. Although he may not be the perfect guy for her, at least I know that there is someone who will love her and be there when she needs him.

Bubbles, if I ever have a daughter, I would want her to be like you – strong, cheerful, beautiful (Ok, this may be difficult cos its my genes and not yours, but nevermind, she will be beautiful in my eyes ;p).

Stay happy and strong!

Love Is....

Bubbles mentioned something about love. Cos I put in my MSN "pls do not ask me what love is". Why I put that comment is bcos earlier someone kept asking me that question, till I was very irritated. So I put it there to stop her from asking me. She has kinda stopped for now. But I just left the comment as it is.

I fully agree on the points that Bubbles mentioned – When I love someone, I will go all out to please him, keep thinking of him, keep wanting to talk to him, buy him little gifts, give him pleasant surprises, listen to his woes, stand by him no matter what. When not together, will keep wondering what he is doing, if he is well, whether he has eaten….

There were only 2 persons I did all the above – One is Mr J, undoubtedly, since he was my first love (stupidly). The other was Mr A.

Mr J was the lucky one. He had practically all the ‘perks’ mentioned. Though he gave me more tears than joy, he made me grow up, and realized how cruel reality is. Do I regret being with him? Hmmm… Not really. Certain decisions, yes I do regret making them. If I could turn back time, I would have done things differently. But then, if I had did some things differently then, would I still be doing what I am doing now? Experienced what I have gone through after him? Maybe not. So no, I do not regret.

I know he did not love me. I know he was ‘forced’ to be with me under some circumstances then. I know and knew all the while that I was not the only one he was with then. Why did I stick with him then? Bcos I was blinded by L-O-V-E. Love that was not reciprocated at all. Instead, all I got in return were loads of debts, some scars that can never be erased (physically and emotionally), and a painful lesson learnt.

Is it me or are all women the same? Will anyone do the same if they were in the same situation as me? Or would they have left him long ago? One thing for sure, Beach Gals were all relieved when they knew he was out of my life. Hahahaha. That is one thing I always appreciate them for. Being there when I needed them most.

I did bump into him a few times. I think he was working somewhere near my ex company. Not sure if he saw me, but I avoided him like mad. Maybe he really terrified me hahahaha.

Mr A. I have the sweetest memory of us. Although we were not together for long, I think I have the strongest bond with him. We did not even see each other very often, cos it was LDR. So I craved for him very often (hahaha, crave is a funny word to use here, but that’s exactly how I felt). There may be silence sometimes, but it is not unpleasant. We just enjoy it with each other.

Everything would have been perfect. It was only time – we met each other too late. There were other things we had to take care of. I guess maybe we were both not selfish enough? Everytime we met, the guilt just kept eating at us. I had wanted to give up. But, again I was softhearted. And just when I decided to accept the fact that we can only carry on the way it is, he decided to call it off. That was the greatest heartache I ever felt. How can he do that to me when he was the one who asked me to hang on if I loved him???? But well…. It’s a fact that he had done it, and I have come to accept it. So its over.

All the rest that followed were… I dont know how I ended up with them. I guess I was just lonely, and wanted companionship. But a relationship without love will not last long, that I have learnt too.

Yes Bubbles, sometimes for some reasons, you are not able to be with the one you love. But if there is that someone that loves you, and you do not mind spending the rest of your life with him, I guess that is good enough? Of cos, the ideal situation would be i-love-u-u-love-me, but really, how many of us get that lucky???

Wish me luck! I need loads of that!

Let Nature Take Its Own Course

CAN ANYONE TELL ME HOW TO CHANGE MY BLOGSKIN TO SOMETHING FROM BLOGSKIN.COM??????

I have been struggling to change, but being the IT idiot I am, I have not figured out how. And I am too paiseh to ask FP peeps again. How? Anyone can tell me step by step or not????

Anyway, for now I will make do with what I have lor. What to do… Who ask me to be so stupid when it comes to these things?

Met up with J and Y yesterday. Had a good chat with them. As usual, they were filling me juicy news from my ex-ex company. Made me laugh and laugh. We went to Lemongrass at Heeren for dinner. Y smsed me to say they would be late, so I decided to shop around first. But after 5 minutes, I decided to just wait outside the restaurant. Why? Bcos I felt so old!!!! Everyone shopping around me was like, in their teens? Or early 20s at most. I felt so out of place man! So I guai guai stood outside the restaurant and waited for them there. Finally they arrived. I quickly walked into the restaurant, where the age is more evenly distributed. I told Y, ya old people also need to eat, so stay in the restaurant safer. Hahahahha.

Dinner was not so great. We ordered a black olive rice, stir fried kai lan, black pepper beef, and a chicken tom yum soup (Cos J is allergic to seafood mah). The soup was milk base, so not the usual tom yum soup we drink. Not so spicy too. The kai lan had so damn much garlic inside, Y and I woke up the next morning with the garlic smell still in our mouths! Yucks! The black pepper beef was…. ok. The block olive rice had nothing inside. 3 of us were constantly complaining over dinner.

After dinner we decided to treat ourselves to some nice desserts. Marche had been taken over by Village. Though the concept is pretty much the same, the quality of the food has a hell lot of difference. Even though we did not try the main courses, we can tell by the crowd. It was only 8pm when we reached there, and it was half empty. Not to mention that J’s waffle was not properly toasted, my strawberry dunno what was lousy, Y’s brownie was passable la. I did not take any photos, cos they were not worth wasting my memory and energy to take my camera out hahaha.

Y had been asking me about my relationship over MSN. I did not update her cos I did not know what to say. But over coffee, J casually asked me again, so I told her it was over. She did not seem very surprised. Maybe she had anticipated this ending all along? I briefly told her what happened, and she said it must have been bad, bcos in her opinion, I am a very tolerant gal, and if I can give an ultimatum, it must be up to me neck already. I was like ‘hahaha’, am I still the tolerant gal she knows? Hahahaha… Maybe, maybe not.

This Y, am chatting with her now. And she is dying to set me up with another ex-colleague’s BIL. I told her no way man. Hahaha. Matchmaking never works for me. Bubbles had wanted to set me up with Ben. But before I can get to meet him, they ended up together and now he is her hubby! Ahahaha. And what about Eric? No news! Am I that bad or what???? @_@

Anyway, I will let nature take its course. Have, have. Don’t have, don’t have. If it is meant to be, it will come my way some day.

My Weekend

Elfie is finally a legal entity! I got his license in the mail today. Must tell mum to buy 4D hahahhaa. I had been pushing off getting his license for a long time. I also brought him for his heartworm test today. Result was negative, so I started him on his interceptor today. So exx leh... 6 tablets for $55! But then, for the good of him not getting infested with all sorts of worms, I guess its worth the money lor. Oh, and Dr Ling discovered he only have one testicle. The other one is not 'dropped' yet. She said that this will increase his chances of getting cancer, so it would be good to sterilise him early. Sob sob... Ok Elfie baby, let you enjoy your manhood for a while more...

Went to the Settler's Cafe today with Ms HP, L and D. Its quite fun actually, not as boliao as I thought it would be. I actually enjoyed myself playing those games. First we played this game that was alot like Monopoly. Main motive was to earn as much money as possible before you reach 'Retirement'. Everyone had to choose a career and a salary card. I was a doctor, but was earning the least amongst them! $60,000!. D earned the most with $100,000. Along the way, we can buy house, stocks, and also get married and have children! And can you imagine, I had like 4 kids??? Quite funny and well, fun la. In the end, yes I earned the least money. Well, its just a game isnt it?

The next game we played was a little boring. We have to balance blocks of different shapes and sizes on this round plank. Each player takes turns to remove one block at a time and not topple the plank over. Boring right? Next!

This game is more interesting. Its a strategy game. Each player chooses a colour and is given a stack of strategy cards each. The objective is to get across the river. In the stack of cards there is putting stones and planks to help you get across, remove stones or planks to prevent others from getting across, stop one player from moving etc etc. Quite interesting. Ms HP and me ended up stopping each other all the time hahahaha.

Overall, I would recommend this place if you have a long boring afternoon with nothing to do with a group of friends. Its a fun way to while your time away.

I was watching this talk show on Ch54 on SCV. I really admire these people's guts. Bcos they can really bare their souls in front of the whole nation and not worry about how others look at them. Although Singapore also has this kind of talk show, somehow I feel that the level of frankness and openness cannot be compared to that of Taiwan. This episode was talking about how you and your ex would go after pating ways and how it would affect your current relationship. They invite 2 couples, with their exes to the show and talk about the issue. And they really talked about what they did, like how the guy would try to kiss the ex-gf after they broke up and he was already in another relationship, in front of his current gf! I wonder if they would have a super big fight after the show....

Well, maybe the things you dont get will always keep you wondering how things would be like. Right? Thats human. Never satisfied with what they have. Sigh.... I promise I will try to be contented. I will cherish what I have. Promise I will try....

Another variety show was about this guy with his mum. There were 4 gals present too, and his mum was supposed to guess which one is her son’s gf. How to guess? Well, the guy gets to hug and kiss everyone of the 4 gals, and through these hugs and kisses the mum supposed to judge their reactions and guess lor. What the…. A bit demeaning isn’t it? I wonder how the gf can stand it, cos if it was meeeeeeeee, I would have given him many tight slaps for being so intimate with the other gals. Really, I guessed the wrong gal too, cos he was like so engrossed in a kiss with this other gal.

I had been good. Been starting a bit of my exercise – hip rotation. Supposed to be sucking in my tummy and rotating my hips 50 times clockwise and vice versa. Been doing it for a week. BUT…. I have been bad this morning. My bro tempted me with a huge piece of Tiramisu from Secret Recipe. And I succumbed….. I will do double hip rotations this week!

Fats fats fats calories calories calories please stay away from me!

Joker Made My Day!

Funny joke I read today!

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CONFESSIONS OF A KID

Little Bobby came into the kitchen where his mother was making dinner. His birthday was coming up and he thought this was a good time to tell his mother what he wanted. "Mom, I want a bike for my birthday." Little Bobby was a bit of a troublemaker. He had gotten into trouble at school and at home. Bobby's mother asked him if he thought he deserved to get a bike for his birthday. Little Bobby, of course, thought he did. Bobby's mother wanted Bobby to reflect on his behavior over the last year. '"Go to your room, Bobby, and think about how you have behaved this year. Then write a letter to God and tell him why you deserve a bike for your birthday."

Little Bobby stomped up the steps to his room and sat down to write God a letter. Letter 1 Dear God, I have been a very good boy this year and I would like a bike for my birthday. I want a red one. Your friend, Bobby Bobby knew that this wasn't true. He had not been a very good boy this year, so he tore up the letter and started over.

Letter 2 Dear God, This is your friend Bobby. I have been a good boy this year and I would like a red bike for my birthday. Thank you. Your friend, Bobby Bobby knew that this wasn't true either. So, he tore up the letter and started again.

Letter 3 Dear God, I have been an OK boy this year. I still would really like a bike for my birthday. Bobby Bobby knew he could not send this letter to God either. So, Bobby wrote a fourth letter.

Letter 4 God, I know I haven't been a good boy this year. I am very sorry. I will be a good boy if you just send me a bike for my birthday. Please! Thank you, Bobby Bobby knew, even if it was true, this letter was not going to get him a bike.

Now, Bobby was very upset. He went downstairs and told his mom that he wanted to go to church. Bobby's mother thought her plan had worked, as Bobby looked very sad. Just be home in time for dinner, Bobby's mother told him.

Bobby walked down the street to the church on the corner. Little Bobby went into the church and up to the altar. He looked around to see if anyone was there. Bobby bent down and picked up a statue of the Mary. He slipped the statue under his shirt and ran out of the church, down the street, into the house, and up to his room. He shut the door to his room and sat down with a piece of paper and a pen. Bobby began to write his letter to God.

Letter 5 God, I'VE KIDNAPPED YOUR MAMA. IF YOU WANT TO SEE HER AGAIN, SEND THE BIKE! !!!!!!!!!

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Wahahahahahahah... funny! I wonder who are the ones who come up with all these jokes. Or are they real?? Who cares, as long as they made me laughed ;p.

I was telling Bubbles that I felt abit down yesterday. After thinking through for a while, I concluded that I was.... Lonely. Yes lonely. Like when you want to do something, but cannot find someone to do it together. Like when you go grocery shopping, you have to lug all the unglam plastic bags and take a bus home yourself. That was what happened to me yesterday. I went grocery shopping at Tiong Bahru NTUC. Bought quite alot of things, which included 2 big cartons of milk. As I was crossing the road to the bus stops, I wished that someone would offer to carry those plastic bags for me. But of cos, no one did lor. The more I thought about it, the more miserable I felt. I told Bubbles 'I need love!' hahahahahah.

Bubbles said cannot rush into such things. Must wait patiently for the one I love and also love me to appear in my life. Wah... wait until when wor??? Not everyone is so lucky to end up with such a person. I am not sure, but in my opinion, many people out there settled for someone who loves them more than they love him/her, cos maybe thats the best deal they can get? Is it true? Well, if I can, of cos I hope that I can meet the one who loves me and I also love him as much, but who knows what will happen in future right? Maybe he will love someone else more? Or Maybe I have a change of heart? Remember I posted something on love or responsibility. To me, love and responsibility works hand in hand. Whether a relationship will work out depends on how you establish and nurture it, not just watch it waste away as time goes by. Of cos, it always takes 2 hands to clap. Its not enough if only one party think this way and the other does nothing. Maybe that is why divorce rate is going up, and birth rate going down....

But I still wanna say this: I NEED LOVE!!!!!!

A Tribute to Beach Gals... Part 5

I cannot resist but post a blog now. I know I have already posted one earlier, but that was just a one-liner so not counted right? Hahahaha. Msn L yesterday to tell her that we have decided to postpone our Taipei trip to next March. Too taxing on my wallet this year. I think L is abit lonely there. She was expecting us to be there and she sounded quite happy. Sorry to disappoint her, but... I cant help it too.

Being alone in a foreign country can be very lonely. JB-ren also told me that before, even though her stint in foreign countries never really lasted for more than 3 months. Hahahaha... I remember that time when we sent her off to Belgium, we were like so sad and emotional. Who knows, in less than 3 months, she was back.. hahahaha

Ok, since we are at it, lets talk about JB-ren today. I knew her since Sec1. She was No 5 in the 10 Sisters gang. We were also in NPCC together, so she, me and C were quite close then. We hang out alot together. I was quite in awe of her then, bcos she had that kind of sey (style), the kind that will make you respectful of her kind, you know... Maybe bcos her dad was a police officer, and being in NPCC, I was like, wow, you have a police officer in your family. I always had a thing for guys in uniform back then hahahaha.

JB-ren has always been a gal who is very strong-headed (got such an adjective or not? I think so hor). If she believes in something or decided on something, she will never, or should I say, you can never change her mind, unless she does it on her own accord. Can be good but if you hit a blind spot, can make you be at a lost. Plus the fact that she always has lots on her mind. It takes her a very super long time to get over something. For a while, she suffered from insomnia. Not too sure if she still is, but have not heard her complain nowadays, so I guess things are looking better?

Oh, I must explain why I gave her this nick - JB-ren. Reason being, she is forever late. And its not just like 15 or 20 min late. No joke. I still remember this incident in secondary school. Me, her and C were supposed to meet up. Both C and I arrived quite on time, and we waited for JB-ren patiently. We knew she would be late, so we did not panic or anything. When we felt that something was wrong, it was like almost an hour after the time we were supposed to meet. C and I became quite worried, but it did not occur to us to call her house, as we thought she must have left home already. At that time, pagers and handphones were still unheard of, so the only means to reach her was her home number. When we finally decided to call her home, she picked it up. We were like 'WHAT!! You are still at home???' She answered calmly 'Ya, my mum asked me to have lunch, so I am eating my lunch now.' ... -_-" Okaaaaaaaaay... Yes that is her. Typical. Even now, she remains the same. Her logic is: better late than never. Like if she is driving, and she misses a turn, she will go 'Nevermind, I am sure there is another turn somewhere further down. What is important is we reach our destination, not how we get there.' So, how late she is is not important, whats important is, she arrives. That is why we are never panicky nowadays when she never shows up on time. We know she is late. Hahahaha. And we always tease her 'You came from JB ah? Causeway jam ah?' And she will go 'Ya ya'. Thats how the nick came about.

As we grew up, I find that I understand JB-ren less and less. Well, in a way I can say that I know what she is like, what she wants and stuff, but I can never understand why she is so... stubborn. Certain things, she just cannot compromise, or accept that the fact that it will never work out, and she will brood over it for the longest time. Ok.. maybe not everyone is like me, so happy-go-lucky, a little optimistic, and not so determined (hahaha), but I think I am a happier person. 拿得起，放得下 is what I always tell myself to do. But since, JB-ren is a strongheaded gal as I mentioned earlier, I find it difficult to help her sometimes, and it pains me and the rest to see her like that, and we can only stand aside and watch.

JB-ren is currently undergoing a career 'crisis'. She had been upset that she has been passover (? Is this the correct term?) for the previous promotion, plus I think she is a little bored with work now. So she said that if she does not get promoted this time round, she will quit her job (and we can go for our KL trip together!) and concentrate on her pearl business. Oh yes, that is one thing I admire her for. Once she sets her mind to do something, she will go all out to do it. Like this pearl business that she is going into, she had started planning for it some time back, and has been sourcing around for materials since then. She took the trouble to detour to another state when she was on her China business trip to check out the source. Something that I myself might have procrastinate till heaven knows when. She once told me that she will start feeling bored with work if she stays at a place for too long (2 years or so), and asked me if it was just her that felt that way. I gave her a very firm no, bcos I sometimes feel the same way too, and I believe many others too. And it is normal to want to have the best, so I dont think there is any problem for wanting to move to a better place.

JB-ren has not been very lucky in her love life. Is she looking in the right direction? Sometimes I feel that she is too..... stubborn. Sorry, I know I have used it many times, but that is the only word I can think of. But then again, I do not really know the full details, so there might be some factors that I do not know of that affects her decision, whether to be stubborn, or to let go. So I shall not comment further on that.

My dear gal, I dont know if you are following my blog, but if you are, I sincerely hope that you can find that special someone in your life soon! Wish you happiness always!

Funny Video

Another funny video! Enjoy!!

http://www.spikedhumor.com/articles/49226/Photo_Booth_Prank_2.html

Complain Queen

I am so hungry... Skipped breakfast this morning cos was rushing out. I think I have to be more disciplined. Cant understand why I am always rushing out of the house these days. Can hear my stomach growling away as I type...

Ok... Now is after lunch, and I have satisfied my poor stomach with a healthy Subway sandwich. And I just went to collect my 'prize' from ACP. I entered a lucky draw in their Feb issue, and yes, now August already then I get notified that I won something. Its a set of La Roche-Posay Whitening products, consisting of a cleanser, a moisturiser, sun block, and an essence. I tried the sunblock and essence on my hands. Not too bad, not fragranced, not oily. Should be worth making the trip down (though its only about 10min from my office hehe).

This morning I called HSBC again. Oh I think I have not mentioned this before so now I shall tell my story again. Goes like this: I applied for a HSBC credit card sometime in July. Got approved and I got it like end July. Was quite happy when I saw the 1-for-1 vouchers they were giving away, which included a Jetstar Bangkok voucher. The promotion works this way - buy a ticket from Jetstar to Bangkok and your companion flies for free, just need to pay the taxes. Have to sms for the voucher to be sent to you. So I happily sent the sms, and got the reply that I will get the voucher within the week. And when I received the voucher, I quickly checked the validity of the voucher so I will not miss the deadline, as I often do. Then I saw the terms and conditions. It says that I have to make the booking by end Sep, and travel by end Oct. Fine. AND if I do not utilize the voucher by end Oct, they will still charge the S$168 (which is what the complimentary ticket is worth) to my card. What the hell!!!! Wah charge me if I dont use the voucher, then why give it in the first place???

Anyway, I quickly checked the price of the tickets to Bangkok. Fuck! The cost for 2 pax to fly to Bangkok will be about S$320, and that is the cost of 1 ticket plus taxes, and the taxes for the complimentary ticket. So ex right? Not worth going by Jetstar. So I called the customer service and told them that I want to cancel the voucher. Conversation went like this:

Me: I want to cancel the Jetstar voucher

H: Did you send us the sms?

Me: Yes

H: Have you received the voucher?

Me: Yes

H: Ma'am, the terms on conditions are very clearly stated that once you send the sms, the voucher cannot be cancelled.

Me: (demonstrating a little of my bitchiness) Where are the terms and conditions? I did not see any before I sent the sms. I only saw it after I got the voucher.

H: Sorry Ma'am, the terms and consitions states that once you send us the sms, and get the reply sms from us, the voucher is already activated.

Me: (A little pissed off already) And if I dont use the voucher?

H: We will charge your credit card S$168.

Me: (Very pissed off now) What do you mean? Why should I be charged if I dont use the voucher??

H: It was stated in the terms and conditions Ma'am.

Me: I dont understand. Why did you guys say it is complimentary, and I get charged? If I have to pay for it, then it is not complimentary, right?

H: .......

Me: I want to cancel the voucher.

H: OK Ma'am. Please hold on. Let me check.

(Puts me on hold)

H: Ma'am, I have to check with our marketing department. Can I get back to you?

Me: When will you get back to me?

H: 2 or 3 days' time.

Me: Ok.

3 days later, no reply from them. I called them again.

Me: Can I speak with H please?

H: Yes ma'am. Sorry, the marketing department has not got back to me yet.

Me: So when can I know the outcome?

H: End of the week.

That was a Wednesday. I waited until Friday. Still no reply. I called them again on Friday.

Me: Can I speak with H?

H: Yes ma'am.

Me: You were supposed to call me back regarding the voucher.

H: Yes Ma'am. Sorry, I am still waiting for marketing to get back to me. This takes some time.

Me: Okaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay. So when can I have an answer?

H: Latest by end of next week.

I decided to hold my cool, and WAIT. End of next week came. No news from them. I called on Monday. H was on leave and the gal who took my call was not sure of what was happening, and asked me to call back the next day, when H was supposed to come back. ok. I wait.

The next day. I called and asked for H again.

Gal: Sorry she is not around.

Me: (sounding real pissed) Not around again?

Gal: She is on leave.

Me: I called yesterday and someone told me she will be back today.

Gal: Yesterday she was on leave. Today I think she is on urgent leave. You are asking about the voucher, Ma'am?

Me: (Not too sure how she knew about the voucher but I am sure they have records somewhere) Yes.

Gal: Ok. Would you like to call back tomorrow when H is back?

Me: NO! I want an answer TODAY.

Gal: Ma'am, sorry I was not the one who handled this case, so I am not sure what happened...

Me: I dont care! I want an answer TODAY. NOW. If you cant help me, ask your manager to come talk to me.

Gal: (Abit nervous now) Ma'am, why dont you tell me what happened and I will see if I can help you.

So I told her the whole story again.

Me: And it has been like 3 weeks? And still no reply from your marketing department?

Gal: Yes Ma'am. Bcos this takes time and...

Me: 3 weeks is not enough time for you to communicate internally?

Gal: Ma'am, its only 2 weeks plus....

Me: Okaaaaaaaaaaaay. 2 weeks and you cannot talk to your marketing people? If that is the case I seriously think you guys have a problem there.

Gal: Ma'am, can you give me half an hour and I will try to call them now.

Me: Ok. Half an hour. And I will expect you to call me in exactly half an hour's time.

Gal: Yes Ma'am.

This time she called me in less than 20 minutes.

Gal: Ma'am, I have called them. They are still looking into this matter. Can you give us a few day's time and we will get back to you?

Me: No, I have waited long enough.

Gal: Ma'am, sorry but we will need more time to check.

Me: Why dont I make things simpler for everyone? Tell me what is my outstanding balance.

She told me the amount.

Me: Ok. I am writing a cheque to clear the balance now. I will send it out by tomorrow. I want you to cancel my card right now.

Gal: Ma'am, if you are worried about the charges....

Me: (Abit shouting at her now) Its NOT about the charges! Its the kind of service I am getting from you people! And I am expecting you to be cancelling my card at this very minute. NOW!

Gal: Ok ma'am.

I hung up the phone. WTF! Is it me or what? I am sure not. What kind of service is this man??? And do they really understand the meaning of complimentary? Makes me wonder alot these days about claiming vouchers and stuff. This morning I called them again just to make sure that my card has been cancelled. No more surprises.

Sometimes I wonder if it has got something to do with age. Bcos I think if it were 5 or 10 years ago, I wouldnt have bothered about them. Just go lor since got the voucher already. Nowadays I just refused to be taken advantage of, or even if it was partly my fault, I would have tried to wriggle out of it. Tell me, is it age?

Love or Responsibility?

I realise that I have been using very simple language in my posts. I see other people one all very cheem one leh.. And their language like damn power one.... Is it my English deteriorate after so many years? Sad.....

Seems like I am planning alot of trips this year. KL with a few of the Beach Gals in September, Bangkok or HCM during the October long weekend, Taipei in November, Macau in December. Like travel once a month. Can I really do all that or not?? I like, overbook myself hor... Maybe should postpone Taipei to early next year. Ms HP gonna scold me... Wah lucky she ok.. I think she too busy to scold me... Hahahaha

I was talking to R over MSN yesterday. He sounded quite sian with his relationship.. Seems too much for him to bear, and his gf dont wanna give way. Well, no compromise then too bad lor. Either he works harder, or give the gf up lor right? I cant do anything to help him, except maybe listen. Then this morning, I got some offline messages from him. I was quite surprised to see the messages, bcos I thought I made myself pretty clear to him. He said something like I was not online for the past week, and he was like quite disappointed not to 'see' me. And that he was trying not to come online to see if I was there, but he couldnt help it. And that part of him desire for love, but on the other hand he needs to be responsible. What is he trying to tell me? Am I reading too much into it?

Whats more, I dont he fits my bill as well. I know I shouldnt be choosy now, but still.... Must have some standards right? He is not a bad guy, but just not what I am looking for lor. He knows I am trying to keep a distance... So maybe I should just continue to keep the distant hor.... I certainly do not want to break them up!

I highlighted my hair yesterday, can see a few streaks of brown now. Looks quite ok. Maybe will boost my tao Hua Yun also hahahahahha.

A Tribute to Beach Gals... Part 4

I met Ms HP for lunch today. She asked me when it will be her turn muahahahahaha... Wait. Patience. Hahahahahaha

If you notice, some of the beach gals are not included in the 10 sisters in my first post about Beach Gals. That is bcos 10 sisters are formed in sec1, some of the Beach Gals I knew only in sec3. Teacher is one of them. Teacher got her nick cos, well, she is going to become a teacher. She is taking her NIE course now, so maybe another 2 years (or is it 1?) she will become a qualified teacher. Since secondary school days, as far as I can remember, Teacher's ambition was to become a housewife. Well, now maybe it is to be a good housewife AND a good teacher ;p. Why I said that? Bcos Teacher's ECA in secondary school was .... Home Economics! Can you imagine?? No offence to those who joined Home Econs Club, but personally, I admit that I am hopeless at Home Econs. Barely managed to pass the subject in lower sec. The only module I liked was the cooking and baking one. I hated and still hate the sewing part. Confession: all my sewing were done by my mum. Hahahahhaha

Ok, yes, so Teacher like Home Econs, and I remember vaguely that she mentioned that she wanted to become a housewife. Of cos, that was then. Now everyone wants a good career (except me?) as well. Maybe that is why Teacher decided to go for her course. It is a stable job, and it gives great satisfaction to see the children grow under your guidance. But need loads of patience, which I have run out of these recent years.

Teacher is one of the more 'garang' one in the gang. She is the who gives the fierce lianish glare if guys come to invade our space during clubbing. Once when we were pubbing at News Room Bar, we were dancing happily in our own corner when this group of guys tried to be funny and danced closer and closer to us. Teacher finally couldnt take it anymore. She stopped dancing and stood on top of the steps and glared at them with hands on her hips. Wow! Dont pray pray ok! If they hadnt backed away, I believed nothing would have stopped Teacher from grabbing them by the ears and throwing them out! I also remember this other incident when we drove to JB some time back. As usual the road leading to the customs was jam packed with vehicles of all sorts. There was this other that came nearer and nearer to our car, almost slamming into our side mirror. All of us in the car were like o_o, gasping in horror. screaming and signaling to the other driver to stop moving. Finally when we caught his (yes its an inconsiderate Ah Beng driver) attention, he showed us that 'no-worries-still-got-alot-of-space' face. And continued moving his damn car! Damn him! Luckily by then, the traffic started moving and we moved further away from him. Teacher was sitting at the window seat that time. And I believed she would have wound down the window and gave that Ah-Beng car a good scratch if the traffic hadnt started moving ahahahaha. Oh yes, this I must mention. We met up for dinner on gangster's birthday last week, and Teacher just updated us on another incident. It was after the National Day Parade, and she was on the way home on the MRT. There was this young couple, 'playing' with each other, hitting each other, and pretending to be hurt etc etc. A few times they were only this close to hitting the passengers standing close to them. All the onlookers were like filled with disgust. Finally, our dear Teacher couldnt stand it anymore, She stood up from her seat, tapped the couple on their shoulders, and said 'Qing ni men bu yao zai diu ren xian yan le hao ma? xie xie' (To put it simply, it means please do not embarass yourselves in public anymore, thank you), and went back to sit down again. After being 'told off' by Teacher, the young couple mellowed down. I think all the other onlookers were silently applauding in their hearts. The thing that made us all laugh was, she still did not forget to thank them after telling them off! Hahahahaha

Anyway, yes, thats how righteous Teacher is. She will not hesitate to put right something that she thinks is wrong, or stop to help someone in need. She was the one who started us on the Henderson's Home thing (though most of us gave up along the way). Sometimes she will volunteer to organize our outings, though now it is so difficult to get everyone together. But she wouldnt complain, not like me who show black face, make noise when people dont reply. She is more of a do-and-dont-say-so-much person. Puts me to shame sometimes, but, well, thats the difference between her and me ;p.

Teacher also had a rather colourful love life. She was amongst the first to have a serious relationship. From D to W, to a couple of others I missed during their Uni and earlier part of working life, to S, to J, to her hubby B. We always enjoyed listening to her recount her dates with her then current squeezes, sometimes more than one at a time ;p. I was like, wow, how come people get so many and I get none? I am not that bad right? Hahahah, well, I guess the time just isnt right. My Mr Right will appear when its time, right? Right! Anyway, back to Teacher's love(s). Not all her relationships turned out well. She suffered from a bad one to the extend of developing Thyroid. I remembered she was reduced from wearing an adult M (?) to wearing kids size. I wasnt able to help much that time bcos I was still in the drift-apart period from the gang, but lucky for her, Gangster and the rest were there for her. She recovered from the relationship, but had to undergo constant treatment and medication for her Thyroid. Her appetite suddenly increased doublefold, and Gangster always told us how she managed to have a heavy dinner, go toilet, then come back and continue eating. And of cos, she started to put on some weight. But she was still never lacked of suitors. One of the jokers I remember - S. he was quite a good looking guy, knows how to have fun, and quite gentlemanly. Teacher was quite quite fond of him. Sh was like considering choosing between him and J... Then Kaboom! We discovered he was.... GAY. We all made quite a joke out of that bcos we seriously never thought that he would be one. In any case, Mr J did not make it as well. Call him... Indecisive. teacher ended up with Hubby B, whom she met from church. Honestly, I did not quite like him at first, for some reason, but now he seems to be quite stable and well, responsible, which is a very important factor I look for in a man ^-^. So, I think she must be quite contented now with her life. Happy marriage, stable job. Keep it up Teacher!

I have been drafting this for days, since Friday, and Teacher (and Bubbles) has been asking about this post. But I cant blog at home mah, so have to drag till today then post. Happy reading, and tune in for more in the week!

Should I Say I M Elated??

The first call I received today was... from my boss! I thought she is going to make noise for something I have done, or not done again. But no wor, first thing she said 'Why, that day got scolding from me, very sad huh? I am very straightforward one, so dont take it to heart, ok?'

Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!!! Should I feel elated that she bothered to call me just to tell me that? Actually, I also know lor. Like I already said many times, I know she is harmless, just that sometimes never think of consequences only. All I need to do is to be more enthusiastic on my job, show her a little more attention, and I think she will love me to bits. Yes Bubbles, I know you have already told me many time to do that, somehow (I seem to like to use this word hahahaha) I just cant bring myself to do it. But I will try, ok?

Actually I got things to do now, but I HAVE to tell everyone this before I get started hahahaha. Oh ya, I saw this video clip about this fierce aunty. Wow... Power!!!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NqrAG2JKEQk

Enjoy! Keep a lookout for Part 4 of Beach Gals!

Try...

I am at home now. Let me try to blog abit see whether can or not. Maybe short short one can ;p. Me watching tv now. Repeat telecast of the show, cant remeber what is the title. The show about doctors, who joined the Life Force that goes to Third World Countries to help the African tribes, ulu China villages etc. There was this particular scene:

Gal discovers she has cancer. She had this boyfriend who loved her very much and they were about to get married. Gal wanted to break off with him so he will not know about her illness, and will not be sad. Question I want to ask is - If you are in the gal's shoes, will you tell the guy about your illness, and share your woes with him? Or will you do the same as the gal in the show, keep it from him and leave him so he will not be sad when you are gone?

I dont know. Maybe ony when it really happens then I will know what I would do. To me, if the guy really loves me, then he will probably want to be there for me, no matter how sick, ugly I become. Right? If we just break off like that, both of us may have the unfulfilled feeling with us for the rest of our lives. Yes, he will be sad if I die, but, time will heal everything mah, right? And the fond momeries of us together will always be in our hearts, nonthing can change that. If I just break up with him, he may wonder for the rest of his life what ever happened. Isnt that more torturing? To me it is.

Better stop now. Wait laptop hang. Hehehhe....

Good night!

A Tribute to Beach Gals... Part 3

I feel like a very obedient gal today. Why? Bcos I actually worked most of the day! Actually feels good. Bcos I know I am not idling away, surfing Flowerpod, Doggisite, blogging (yes I know I am now, but the day is almost gone, and I cant blog at home!)... I shall continue to do that.

My counterpart in China told me she had a talk with our boss. She knew that I felt rather lousy after kennaing(?) again yesterday. She heard what my boss scolded me for, and she actually felt my boss was abit unreasonable. So when the chance arose today, she had a talk with boss. And she related the conversation to me. Comforted me that actually boss did not think so badly of me, just that I am too shy and reserved, and do not (dare) communicate with her alot. And that scold me is for my own good, want me to buck up. Tell me not to take to heart, cos boss also forget after scolding. I was like -_-'.. I know for a fact that I am slacking. And yes, I happen to be abit shy and reserved. I am not one who will fight for myself. My friends know that, maybe thats why they all (most of them la) seem to want to protect me. I also know that basically boss means no harm, just that the words used sometimes hurts more than she knows. Well, since I have decided to stay put, I guess I will just have to adjust my mindset, and really buck up, and give boss less reasons to scold me lor, right? Right.

When I met my uni friends on Monday, a question popped up: If you knew that the foetus you are carrying is defective, would you choose to keep it or abort it? Tough question huh? I would choose to.... I dont know... I would want to abort it, bcos not only the baby will suffer under the looks of onlookers, the parents and the people who love the baby will also suffer. On the other hand, its a life you are talking about.... Yes, thats why its so tough. What will your choice be?

Part 3 of Beach Gals.... Its gonna be a short one, cos till now, I cannot say that I know Ms Fit very well. Somehow, she doesnt seem to be able to blend into the gang like the rest, but still she is part of it. The distance makes it more difficult, now that she is in Germany. I am guilty to say that I have not made the effort to keep in touch. Though sometimes when we have 'major' gatherings, I will still keep her in the loop, but most of the times, she is forgotten...

Ms Fit, as her nick describes, is the fittest one amongst us all. She learnt ballet since young, and has always been dancing throughout her uni days, even after. So you can imagine how toned she is. Flat tummy, toned legs, nice arms (that doesnt flap like mine when I wave them). I have never seen her gone 'out-of-shape' like some of us do (yes I admit that I am now ~_~). She has a rather big age gap between her and her siblings (all brothers), which may explain why sometimes I feel that she is a little 'spoilt', not extremely, just a little at times. But generally, Ms Fit is an easy-going person, and is gamed for anything. I am not sure why, but I felt that (and still feel so) Ms Fit has a problem communicating with us. Sometimes no one seem to hear her. its like after you speak, no one gives any reaction to what you said, know what I mean? And then after an awkward moment, suddenly another person says something and the topic is quickly changed. That happened quite a few times, I recall, with Ms Fit. I really have no idea why, but sometimes, no one can continue with her topic. Maybe different interests? The only person who talk to her more maybe is Dajie. Since they live nearer to each other (both of them stay east, whilst the rest of us stay west), I guess they talk more when they go home together. Jb-ren sometimes goes diving with Ms Fit too, so I think they would be closer. Actually, I think anyone would be closer to her than me, cos I have never ever been out alone with her before. Is it my fault then that I have not cherished the time when I could have tried to understand her more? Maybe...

Ms Fit's love life hasnt been very smooth (The way I feel la). Somehow the relationships always gone wrong. Until F, her hubby now. Even him, I am not sure whether Ms Fit really loves him, or its just to prove herself. Prove what, I dont know. Its just a feeling I have. Even till now, I have that feeling that she is not happy. Dont ask me why, cos I wouldnt be able to answer the question. Its just the feeling, the feeling, you know? And also, there are some instances, like the last time she came back, she went to C, her haridresser, who happens to be Director's friend. Ms Fit was 'complaining' that her hubby doesnt give her money etc. But she did not mention anything to us. Is she feeling that we do not care about her? Is she feeling being neglected by us? Are we?

Maybe its time to start doing something about it. How? Let me think about it....

P/s: I told you its gonna be a short one...

A Tribute to Beach Gals ... Part 2

I was surfing some other people's blog when I saw this. Must see! Erm... I dont know how to insert the video to my blog, so just click on the link ok.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n_xcXAbarTA&eurl=

Apparently this little gal is only 7 years old! What was I doing at 7 years old? Even when I was 27, I couldnt dance like that! Amazing right? Erm... maybe not to everyone la... But to me being able to move your body like that at 7 is amazing enough. Ok, that inspires me to go sign up for Amore. Ahahaha... aerobics will make you more flexible and agile right? That is a start mah. Dont laugh at me!

I have always wanted to learn salsa, but... I hate sweaty palms touching my body, any part of my body even if it is only my hands! Ok, I admit, I have this thing about people touching me, especially strangers or people I dont know well. If someone bumps into me accidentally, I will be really irritated. Even if it is just a gentle touch on my arm, I will have that 'yucks-who-touched-me' look. Then I will start to see if there are any stains or dirty things left on me. Hahahaha. Crazy I know, but thats me. Once at Hans, I was happily eating my food when I heard a loud cough coming from behind me, and instantly, I felt a splash of food on my right arms. Yucks! Can you imagine how disgusted I was?! I quickly wiped away the 'food' on my arm and was about to start scolding when my friend told me an old man choked on his food. Okkkkkkkkkkkk. I should be understanding right? So I kept my mouth shut and tried to continue eating. At the same time, I was using wet tissue and trying to clean my arm again and again. There was no toilet in the restaurant, and the nearest one was far away, plus I was stuck on the seat (my friend was sitting on the outside so I didnt want to make her stand up and make way for me). When I went back to office, firt thing I did was to dash into the toilet and use soap and whatever I could find to scrub my arm clean! Ya, so thats what a clean-freak I sometimes am ;p.

Ok... Who should I blog about today? Hmmmmmm...... No Bubbles, not you yet. Hahahaha. Let's talk about Ms Travolta. Why do I call her that? Bcos I will always remember her finger dancing hahahahaha. When we partied (got such a word?) at China Jump, that was her signature move. She is a damn funny gal, full of adventures too. I will never expect her to turn out this way, with the impression of her in early secondary school days. She was, maybe still is, an avid reader. Always had a book with her everywhere she went. Back then, she had lots of white hair. Its hereditary. I always thought she must be a very hardworking gal to have white hair so young. Well... She IS hardworking, more than me at least hahaha.. And I realised that she always had this nonchalent look, and well, she IS nonchalent. Basically she is quite happy-go-lucky, and has quite a heck care attitude. She does what she thinks is right, even if the whole world objects to it. And she always had her own logics. I will always remember her saying this 'We accept friends as who they are, flaws and everything else included.' I cant remember exactly what happened when she said this, but it was something like we were discussing something on East Coast Beach after a BBQ, and there were some disagreements amongst us. And some of us started crying. Shit, such an important incident how can I forget what happened? Can anyone remember? Anyway, yes it was during then that Ms Travolta said that, and it got imprinted in my mind. I always remind myself that when I felt pissed with a friend.

Ms Travolta, in my impression, though nonchalent, is a very kind gal (woman? Afterall, she is a mum already hehe). I remember vividly that once she came to have lunch with me at Great World City when I was temping there, though we were not particularly close that time. Till now I wonder why. Maybe she was looking for a lunch partner? But It would never cross my mind that she would look for me, the quiet and boring gal (yes I admit that I am). Cos at that point of time, the whole gang were fresh out from Uni, having the best time in their lives then. Partying, socialising, building up contacts and career. I am still no where. Well, thats me, and its another topic altogether ;p.

Oh, I forgot to mention the transformation. The white hair were gone by sec3, slightly wavy hair became straight. And after graduation, make up came on. Ms Travolta has beautiful eyes. When she bats those innocent looking, big, round eyes, I believe no men can resist her hahahahaha.

Ms Travolta is someone who knows what she wants and plans her path to achieve the goal. She wanted to get out of Singapore. I remembered she sort of hated Singapore then, idolising the freedom of the States. She wanted to experience living there. To the States, to see the world. She quit her job at the magazines place and became a private tutor. This way she could save more for her trip. She started to look for internships in USA, and she got one! All of us were thrilled that she was able to fulfill her dream, but at the same time, sad that she was going away. She went to, was it Maryland first? She did an internship with a travel agency. The job did not pay very well, but she was happy. We could all tell. She was experiencing life that none of us would ever have the courage to, give up everything here to go to a strange place all alone. She wrote to us quite often (quite la huh), updating us whenever she could, sometimes shocking us with things like 'I tried the pill, and the feeling was quite good'. -_-" The then-innocent me was thinking 'Pill? What pill?' But not wanting to look stupid, I kept my questions to myself. Before realizing she was talking about Ecstasy!!! She had a supplier, apparently her then boyfriend (right?), and she went to rave parties, popped more pills, had whatever you can think of. But somehow, all of us were quite 'fang xin', maybe bcos we know that she was able to take all these in her stride. Before we knew it, she announced that she was married. Married?? Our Ms Travolta, who never believed in marriage, 'secretly' married? Of cos we were all happy for her, but just couldnt really believed it then. She came back to visit soon after and when we met up, she was still the same old Ms Travolta. But We could feel the change in her. She is more considerate now, not that she wasnt before, but can tell that she will take more factors into consideration now before she makes any major decisions. Maybe marriage life has changed her. And very funnily, she appears to like Singapore much more now. Hahahaha. What is better, her hubby prefers Singapore to the States (according to her la). So actually they come back quite often. And now with baby Chelsea, we look forward to seeing them more often hahahaha.

My whole new impression of Ms Travolta: Funny, caring, more selfless and considerate, mature, persevere/perseverance (what is the adjective for this word??) (Oh she has a bead business which is doing quite well).

Actually, I am not doing a good job talking about Beach Gals, but I shall try to do better as I go along. Please bear with my lor-sorness and broken english at times ;p

A Tribute to Beach Gals... Part 1

I met up with my uni frens last night. I was reluctant to go at first bcos i felt like I was coerced to go. A made it sound like if I dont join them, its the biggest sin in the world. And I didnt like that feeling, thus the feeling of relunctance. But of cos, as always, since I have decided to go, I tried to enjoy myself. We had a good time catching up. Somehow, the topic became the need to do a PAP Smear. A was asking if she should do it, bcos she has never done it before. All of us encouraged her to. Especially me. I told her it was definitely necessary. Though she is not sexually active (Yes I think she is still a virgin), every women should do it once they hit 25. P voiced her views that doing a PAP Smear will break her hymen. Florence and I went -_-. Never expected that to come from P. I mean, so what if hymen is torn? You mean men will still check if women bleed after sex to see if they are virgin? Pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeease lor. Nowadays, hymen can be torn bcos of many things. Simple things like cycling or exercising can do the job, no need to go for PAP Smear. Besides, I checked with the doctor the last time I went to do it. PAP Smear is to check for cervical(?) cancer, NOT STD or HIV and sexual-related illness. So please, all of you women out there, go do it every once or twice a year. Do not think that you do not need it if you are not sexually active....

Ok, I know that all the above have got nothing to do with the title. I know I know. Just that I wanted to voice out the necessity of PAP Smear. My friends out there, if you are reading my blog, please do it too, ok?

Ok, back to the title. I just thought I will blog about my pals here. Erm.. post by post la, not all together. Cos I think if I mention all together, I will never be able to finish what I want to write hahahahaha.

Beach gals: how did that name come about? It started when some of us started wakeboarding. Thanks to our Dajie, who introduced us to the sport. I enjoyed it very much. Maybe bcos it did not take alot of effort to do it ;p. But to me, it is an expensive sport, so I did not continue after the coach retired. Anyway, yes, that was how we named ourselves the beach gals. Not that we are THAT sporty, but we just sort of liked the name so stuck with it till now. Actually the only thing we did related to the beach was probably wakeboarding, unless you count picnicing at East Coast in too hahahahahaha. Well, then I should probably mention that we blade at East Coast as well. Yes, I think that was how the name came about.

Members of the Beach gals: Dajie (of cos), Bubbles, Gangster, JB-ren, Teacher, (the following are the not so involved with the beach, but still count them in as we are a 'gang' mah) Ms Travolta (the finger pointing gal), Ms HP, Ms Fit (Now in Germany), Director (Neh, the one in Mediacorp), and of cos, myself.

We have known one another for like 20 years? Ok, some 18, some 20. A looooong way back since our secondary school days. Back then, maybe not all of us were close to everyone. Its like A is close to B, B is close to C, so A, B, and C are a 'gang', but A actually not very close to C. Understand? With your wit, I am sure you do ;p. But over the years, gradually we become more closeknitted. I got to know everyone of them better, in one way or other. Maybe not very well, but better than I used to. Since I have a blog now, I will talk about each one of them, and how my relationsip with each and everyone of them is.

Let's start with Dajie. She is one that I was never close to back then. I remember on the first day of school, there was this gal with small eyes, with a pony tail tied high up on her head. I was thinking 'wah, so lian'. Well, erm... she was quite lian to me la, though some would say she is the more fashionable one. I cant really remember how all of us got together, must be the above A+B+C theory, but somehow, we formed the 10 sisters. Yes very chak chak, but we enjoyed giving ourselves the name. No1 was Dajie, No2 was S (who after Sec 2, no longer joined us for anything), No3 was P (who after Uni, also never joined us anymore), No4 was Ms Fit, No5 was JB-ren, No6 C, No7 Gangster, No8 Bubbles, No11 Ms Travolta, No10 me. Yes, I was the youngest (December baby mah).

Dajie was the one with alot of 'first': The first who had a boyfriend, the first to leave a tail with her bob, the first to teach us 'line dancing' (that time somehow people liked to dance standing in 2 lines or in a circle), the first who 'tatooed' herself (but failed and got a scolding from our chinese teacher hahahaha), the first to wear the off-shoulder top and kenna pulled down by JB-ren in public....

Dajie may have looked lianish then, but still hung out with tood tood people like myself (I wore big glasses and wore a typical bob then, always in my jeans and t-shirt.. hmmmm must be the ABC theory). To me, she always exuded the kind of confidence I never had. No matter what she was wearing, she just seemed so comfortable and of cos pretty. She is also smart, in fact, all of them are smart, and know what they want. She seemed to know when to say and do the right things. I recall the days when all of us would sit together and pester her to tell us about what she and her boyfriend then did. How the first kiss was like etc etc. Secondary school was also when I started to stay out late, or even overnight. To BBQs at East Coast, chalets at Pasir Ris and Sentosa. And we shared alot together during these outings. Tears, joy, laughter, gossips. Oh, and did I mention that Dajie was a girl guide? I am not sure if it was from there, or she naturally was, kind and helpful, and had loads of initiative. Whenever we had BBQ or gatherings, she would be one of the few that were kept busy cooking or cleaning up after the rest.

When it was time to decide which stream we wanted to go to in Sec3, everyone had an objective (For me, it was just following the crowd). It was then we had to split up, cos not everyone chose the same path. Gangster, Ms Travolta and me were in the same class, Dajie, Bubbles in the next class, JB-ren 2 classrooms after. We drifted a little distance away since then, cos everyone started hanging out with other people. From then on, I never really saw alot of Dajie and Bubbles, cos they were like part of the center of attraction in school, one of those few that were prominent in their own ways - being outstanding or loud in looks. I did not want to be, or rather, could not be part of that group, so I stayed away. After O levels, I drifted even further away from them, and even the rest of the group, bcos all of them went to JCs, I was the only who went to Poly. I felt a little inferior, and left out. They did their part to try to include me in all the outings and stuff, but still, I felt a little not-part-of-them, know what I mean?

Anyway, back to Dajie. She did her degree in Accountancy at NTU, and after graduation, went on to do abit of auditing before going into insurance. In my eyes, she was one of the few successful financial advisors I see. She had her own car, joined the million-dollar-round-table, which to me was something I can never do, she had a boyfriend back then (though I cant remember which one it is now). To me, she had everything I wanted. But I also noticed that while I gained confidence (not that I gained alot), she was losing hers. I felt that she was like... lost? Lost her direction in life. She quit her insurance job to look for her ideal job. In a way, I felt that she was too choosy, too particular in the industry she wants. For me who practically had to grab whatever comes my way, being choosy was a luxury. Plus she could still afford to go for holidays, do the things she enjoyed. But at that moment, I did not want to be like her. Bcos I was happy with what I had. Of cos, there were down periods, but dont forget, I am a Master at Pathological Lying (ahahahah). She was like perpectually unhappy. She laughed and played with us, yes. But I could feel her unhappiness. She could not find a job that was 'ideal' to her. She was unhappy in her relationship. Somehow, she became more withdrawn.

I felt a little worried for her, but I did not know how to help her. Surely, I did not have the credibility to tell her anything, being the quiet one, and not having a stable career myself. All I could do was to show more concern and be a good listener. Yes, that is the only thing I am good at. Only to people that I care about ;p.

Now that she has settled down in her job, and had a rather stable relationship with G, I hope that she can continue to seek for the happiness that she wants.

Ok, abit drained today. If I can think of anything else, will update in my later posts. Going to have an early night tonight. Bubbles, dont miss me too much. I have tried my best to write a long long post. Dont read so fast ok. Will do better tomorrow ^o^.

Princess Pork Chops is a Mum!!!

Princess Pork Chops is a mum! Her little princess Natalie was born on August 13 3.04am. I received Pork Chop's sms on my way back to Singapore from KL. We have been counting down to this day for a while.

I just visited her at Mt Alvenia Hospital. Was thinking what I should buy for her. The baskets that I see online are not very nice nor practical. So I went to the florist downstairs and asked them to packed a dozen of Gerberas and half a dozen of chicken essence for me. I waited around half an hour for them to do the whole thing up. By the time I left, it was already 1.30pm -_-". Then spent 30min in the cab to and fro. So Bubbles, not that I wanted to take long lunch on purpose. I only spent like 30min with Pork Chops and Little Natalie.

Little Natalie was napping when I got there. Pork Chops was touched that I went all the way to see her and baby (my office is like damn far lor). Chicadelic was there too. Both of us went like 'ooo... aaaa..... goooooo' over Natalie. The mum and dad were smiling from ear to ear. And they took a few photos of us and the baby. Finally, i turned my attention to Pork Chops. She had a Caesarean, and her wound still hurts. But she said she was supposed to NOT sit around the whole day, so she offered me her seat so she can stand abit. Then she explained that the doctors 'thought' that Little Natalie was ' stressed' in the womb and squeezed the umbilical cord so hard the oxygen and blood could not get to her, causing her heartbeat to become increasing fast. That was why they did a Caesarean on Pork Chops. But.... when Little Natalie came out, she was not stressed lor. Seems like she couldnt wait to come out and see the world ^-^. Little Natalie knows how to throw a tantrum to get her way. Pork Chops is gonna have a hard time disciplining her....

Then, it was feeding time. Pork Chops got ready (her breast) to make sure that the 'milkflow' is good enough, while New Daddy got round to wake Little Natalie up from her nap. He tickled her, unwrap her from her blanket so she feels cold, and will wake up. Me and Chicadelic were like -_-". Like that also can? Wake baby up not just shake abit, noisy abit can already? Hahahaha. No wor. That was the way the doctor taught them to wake baby up. So now I know. Hahahhahah.

When Daddy put Little Natalie into Pork Chops' arms for breast feeding, Chicadelic and me looked at each other and were thinking the same thing: should we excuse ourselves? But Pork Chops said no need wor. What she have both of us also have lor, even more than her hahahahahaha. So we stayed lor. It was quite amazing to see the baby suckling at mum's breasts. I mean, it was not grosque at all. The way baby sucked, then stopped then sucked again, then the contented look on baby's face when she is done, is all so amazing to me. I mean, Motherhood is such a holy thing. Imagine a mother has to go through so much pain to bring a child into this world, bear the soreness in her breasts when she breastfeeds you, wake up in the middle of the night to feed you (ok, to be fair, sometimes the dad does that too), go through more 'pain' to lose all that post-natal fats, suffer hair loss, and maybe has to live with freckles for the rest of her life. Who will really understand all that until she becomes a mother herself? And that is just the beginning. Its a loooooooooooong journey till she grows up.

Maybe one day, I will get to experience all that too... Maybe one day...

Rosie's KL Trip

I am back! Though I enjoyed the trip, I must say I am so tired. Arriving at 4am in the morning is no fun at all. Think next time will plan better timing. We (mum and me) reached the hotel at about 4.30am, checked in and by the time we settle down in our room, it was almost 5am.

We stayed at the Boulevard, which is right at Mid Valley megamall! It is a relatively new hotel, so like Mr L said, I do not have to 'share' room with thousands of others. Compared to Cititel, which is also at Mid valley, the room was pretty big and spacious. Just that I thought the room was not very properly cleaned. It was made up. But I saw some faint black patches on the sheets. Yes, I admit I can be a clean freak at times. But I was too tired to make noise, so i just slept. Other than that, quite happy with the service and room. Though tired, I woke up early bcos I did not want to waste my day sleeping in. Woke my mum at 9am to have breakfast. Realized my mum did not bring her undies, we went to Metro to get some for her. Then realized we both did not bring our combs/hairbrush, we went to Sasa. Other than the intended combs, we bought moisturisers and 2 lipsticks for my mum. That's the start of our (should I say my? hehe) shopping spree.

Mon fetched us at about 11am to go for lunch and 1U for more shopping. The little princess (Kym) was not in a good mood that day. Havent warmed up with us yet I guess. But after having lunch, she started to be chatty and playful, her usual self. Yes we understood now that she was too hungry to talk before that.. hahaha. Mum couldnt take it, say she was too tired, so Mon fetched her back to catch up with sleep. I continued with my shopping. First day, I bought 3 pairs of shoes, 1 pair of shorts, 3 tops, and 1 small bag. Had planned to have dinner with Mr L, but the busy man had to attend a political meeting at the last minute, so he flew me a 747 again. He is now into politics. So has to be more on the ball, and attend all sorts of meetings. Good for him to get more contacts, good for his business too. Nevermind, I called Mon and asked her to pick me up again. Yes, I do feel apologetic making her drive to and fro. We had dinner at a coffeeshop like place. Dinner was good. We had belachan kangkong, ginger frog legs, fried intestines (which both my nephews ate so deliciously), spicy pork, curry fish, stir fried celery. I had wanted to pay, but my bro-in-law said "No!", so I respected his wishes ahahahah... Marc had wanted to see my room but his dad said "tomorrow la", so he had no choice but to listen. But the following day, he forgot all about it and went to his friend's house to play. Kids are kids ;p.

On Sunday, I woke up early to have breakfast again. Pay already of cos must eat la. After that, went for my mani-pedi. Went to this place called JJ nails. I went there 2 years ago and since then have been going back to them. But I feel that their services getting worse and worse so the next time I think I will find another place to go. The gal who did my nails this time was not gentle at all, and I think that she did not do a thorough job. She did not even try to file my nails even! Grrr! And do they not have nail strengthener in Malaysia??? I told them I do not want colour on my fingers, just nail strengthener, they looked at me with that 'huh?' face. So i said, nevermind, just buff. Overall, service sucks. Ok, thats it for JJ nails for me. Next!

I carried on with my shopping after doing my nails. I bought another pair of shoes and 3 more tops. Mango was cheap, but I did not have time to try on the sizes as I had to rush back to check out. Mon brought me for lunch, and she tempted me with more shopping at a flea market opposite where we lunched. I thought I wouldnt buy anything there. How wrong I was. I bought 2 more tops (those with support so do not have to wear bra kind), a bag, a set of Barbie dool clothes for Princess Kym. If not for the fact I have to catch my coach, I believed I would have bought more. Mon said I can always go there again next weekend to continue. Bleah.... I am not going to go through another mid night coach just to go to the flea market!!! Whats more, Bubbles and I are planning for a KL trip in September, so I can always bring them there hehehehe...

So, thats my very rushed KL trip last weekend. Though my legs are aching with all the walking and shopping I did, I have no complaints :). Looking forward to KL again in September!

KL Here I Come!!!

Me going to KL tomorrow night!!! Yeah!!!!!!!!! Am taking the 10pm coach from Singapore, so will reach KL around 4am in the morning. Me and mum will try to catch a cab from the bus station since no one volunteers to come and pick us #$@%#.

Well, I understand la. Cannot be waking my bro-in-law up just to come and pick us up rite? Mr L also. So... poor us will just have to cross our fingers and hope that there are cabs around that area at that time.

Its the Malaysia Mega-sale now!!! Hope to get some real good deals there. Shoes especially. I need black shoes. My monster at home has chewed both my black heels to pieces #%^$%!@#. And not learning. Trust me, I DO discipline him. But he is one that does not answer to spanking and smacking. The more you smack him, the more shiok he is, the more excited he becomes. I suspect he is a little psycho. Oh, and he likes to follow us to the loo, and lie on the floor while we do our business. Should I say he is loyal? Or he has a fetish for toilet smells? hahahahahaha

We has our GBU retreat just before National Day. I was actually not too involved in it. Did not want to be. But, inevitably, I was pulled into it by people. Well, not that I am not willing to. I know it is only good for me to get to know people that I am going to work with probably for the next few years. So I went. As usual, I try to enjoy myself since I cannot escape from it. I did. The crowd is fun. Just that I am still in my hermit mood, so not really able to switch to my social butterfly mood in such a short span of time.

Actually, I can be quite stubborn. No one can force me to do things that I dont want to. If I choose to do it, I will do it happily. Or at least I will try. Bubbles always say I am a good gal. Cos I always listen to her (ahahaha I really think so). Like if she asked me to blog, I will. If she asked me to join the dinner, I did. Not bcos I admire her so much that I do whatever she asks me to, but rather, I do not mind doing the things that she asks. So since I am not doing anything in particular, so why not just do something worthwhile for me or for someone else? Right? Right.

Things that I like to do, of cos I will do it most willingly without needing ayone to tell me to. Like scrapbooking, though I am not even good at it, but I enjoy it. Like work (especially this one), I do not really enjoy it, so I delay doing things. Boss just told me off this morning for 'not being on the ball enough'. Though whatever happened was no fault of mine, I do admit that I have been slacking alot. Been doing things halfheartedly. Therefore, unproductive. I have been pulling my socks, yes. But whenever I made up my mind to, I kenna from my boss, and that makes me fall back into my slacking self.

To be honest, she has been considerably nice to me already, taking into account the kind of work I have been handing in. I should be judging her based on other people's opinion. Reason being she will definitely treat me differently bcos I belong to 'her gang'. Therefore I seriously think that I should be doing much better than now. I will. Bcos I do not want to lose my job too! Hahahahaha

Ms HP and I went PS to shop for scrapbook stuff yesterday. MWL is having a moving out sale, so I am there to grab while Ms HP is there to browse. She ended up buying more than me. Hahahahhaha. Then we headed to Spotlight. And found more scrapbooking stuff! We were so excited!!! And spent more money there. We spent the whole 3 hours. in the 2 shops and spent a total of $300+. We had a little consolation bcos as we were going down to the basement looking for food, we discovered there is an instant lucky dip and lucky draw! We quickly joined the queue. I got a notebook from 'My exgf something something' (cant remember the title) and Ms HP got a T-shirt. I gave her the notebook cos she was like oogling at it for the longest time. We filled in about 8 or 9 lucky draw coupons. First prize is OSIM I-ecology (or is it I-Squeeze??). not too bad huh. My mum had been talking about getting a massage chair and if I get picked for the first prize, it will be a nice gift for her.

Its 8pm, and I am still in the office. Waiting for boss to finish her stuff and come back and say 'Oh, you are still around'. No la, I need her to sign some documents, and need to find out if she is coming into the office tomorrow. Gangster said she was told that boss will be coming in half a day. I hope its the morning half, cos I want to go off on time tomorrow to celebrate Gangster's birthday, and also to set off for KL!!!! I am getting excited just by talking about it!!!!

KL here I come!!!!

Third Party

Yesterday I was talking to a friend over MSN. Here is part of our conversation:

(Our earlier conversation was about me complaining when I will find my Prince Charming. R is my friend. He is attached)

R: Maybe you will find your prince charming tomorrow leh...

Me: Ya right....

R: Can I have the honour of trying my luck at your area tomorrow?

Me: You caaaaaaaaaaaaaaaannnnnnnnnnnn... But you will fail lor. Cos I will never be third party.

*Pause*

Me: Cos I believe in retribution....

R: True.....

*Another pause*

Me: Ei, how come I have erm... the feeling that you like me? Dont make me scared leh...

*Pause*

R: You have the feeling that I like you?

*Pause*

R: Do you really feel that way?

Me: Hmmm... Not yet... hahahahaha

R: hahahaha

Me: But I dont wanna start anything lor. So Please dont. Dont forget about your gf..

R: I just feel comfortable with you. Can talk about anything. But sometimes some things cannot be controlled...

Me: Welllllllllllllll.... If you really feel something, please go and settle your own problems before you come and ka chiao me ok...

R is someone I met 'accidentally' not long ago, and we kept in touch over MSN. We chat almost every night. Except weekends when I seldom log in. But he did mention that he waited for me till late then he logged out. Am I being sensitive or what? I dont know. I dont want to jump to conclusions. Maybe he just wants to be friends?

I confess, I had ever been a third party. And the feeling sucks. You have to be careful when you go on the streets. No intimate actions, not to mention even holding hands. And when the 'legal/official' party calls, and he had had to go, the feeling is even more sucky. You know that you have to let him go. You can only be backup. And the worse thing is: you cannot complain. Or should I say, you have no right to complain. You chose this path, and you have to bear the consequence.

Actually, I had no regrets. I did not ask for more. All I wanted was to be able to see him once in a while, and I was happy. Yes, I did feel lousy when there were times when he couldnt make it to spend time with me. But I never complained. I tried to be understanding that he had to juggle time between his family, business and me. Though we were only together for a short period of time, we have loads of happy and sweet memories. Maybe it was the obstacles that made us cherish the times together. He couldnt take the stress. He called it off. Initially I was not able to take it. Kept pestering him. Make him and myself more miserable. (Having said that, I told myself that I will never be such a nuisance again. Even if I wanna die also die quietly, wont be such a pest anymore!) To the point that he 'shouted' at me for the first time. Then I started to wake up (Remember Pathological Lying? Maybe I had a 'relapse' and in the end cured myself of lovesickness ;p).

Would I have continued the relationship if he had not ended it so abruptly? Yes I think would. I was even prepared to give up everything here and move over to be with him. Live simply, and be happy. Even the few relationships I had after that, I kept using him as a scale of measure. No one relationship could compare to what I had with him. Yes I know, I know its not right and not good and not healthy to compare. But sometimes you just cant help but do it.... Maybe things that are beyond your reach will always be the best...

I am happy as I am now. Bubbles, JB-ren and Ms HP said that I have become more 'anti-social' nowadays. Have I? Maybe I have. Been in my hermit mood alot recently. I have just become tired of repeating the same process over and over again. And end up being disappointed again and again. Its really tiring, and I seem to be oblivious to what is happening around me nowadays. Only concerned about those things that I already know or is familiar with. Bubbles keep asking me to make new friends, but Bubbles, I am really tired. Maybe we are different in character. You are always the 'social butterfly' (no mean thods, but that is what comes to my mind now) and I am the shy mimosa (touch me and I will close myself up). Sometimes you may catch me in my social butterfly mood, but that is rare. I like to listen to people talk, but communication is always 2-way, unless that person doesnt mind me keeping quiet and just rattle on (in which case, I do not mind at all ;p) So if you like to talk, come be my friend ok? ^_^